Since Evan died, I have realized how life can change drastically in an instant. These moments – the tragic, the full of love, even the humiliating – are what make up our brief time in this world. This has taught me to value the present moment. The words of Thomas Merton describe this best:
“In a time of drastic change one can be too preoccupied with what is ending or too obsessed with what seems to be beginning. In either case, one loses touch with the present and with its obscure and dynamic possibilities. What really matters is openness, readiness, attention, courage to face risk. You do not need to know precisely what is happening or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment and to embrace them with courage, faith and hope. In such an event, courage is the authentic form taken by love.”
I am constantly reminding myself to be grateful of whatever I am feeling or doing, to have enthusiasm for the moment and then be willing to let it go. This is important part of the grieving process; being able to let go. I feel that by honoring the present moment, you also honor the people that you have lost.
How do you value the present moment, and the people that you have lost?