Mother’s Day – it’s not all flowers and brunch and tea. It can be a miserable day for countless women grieving a child gone too soon.
The first Mother’s Day after my brother died was stressful. I tried to pamper my mom all day long to let her know how much she is loved and to keep the sadness away. She went through the motions of the day carrying the heavy grief.
Mother’s Day does not need to be happy to be important, it can be an opportunity to honor and comfort her. Here are some ideas from my experience:
- Acknowledge her loss. She’ll be thankful someone remembered and wasn’t afraid to say her child’s name.
- Ask her to share a story about her son or daughter. Even if she is not able to at that moment, she’ll appreciate the gesture.
- Console her if she cries, and let her know it is ok to be sad.
- Donate to a charity in memory of her child.
- Most importantly, understand that nothing can stop the pain. It is not your responsibility to keep the sadness away.
Mom, I love you. Let’s fill our day with stories of Evan and delight in the memories.